Friends play various roles in our life. They can be your doctor, your supporter, a secret keeper, a caretaker, and a family too. They play these vital roles in your life whenever you need them to. And you have experienced all the good, fun things and bad things together in your life. Losing them is like losing a part of yourself, all of a sudden your world starts falling downwards. Imagining that we could never see them is disheartening and tears couldn’t let themselves stop from rolling down the face.
Losing someone always leaves you in the place where you feel your every breath as a burden. But you shouldn’t think this way. You are not the only one in this world who is suffering from the loss, everyone is. No person who is born can escape suffering. With your grieving, don’t forget that your friend’s family is suffering from this traumatic event too. Offering your help and support to the family will help them and give relief to you too.
If you feel like crying, cry out loud. If you feel like being silent, just be then. Just remember if you neglect your emotions, it will only make your pain or anger grow stronger which in turn, won’t do any help in processing your grief and moving on. Accepting what you are feeling is important. And expressing it to the people around you is a step towards your healing. People who love you are always there to listen to your grief without judgment. Their warm condolences and wishes might help you with the right direction in your life.
I know that every person has different ways to handle their feelings and discovering which way is the need of the time. You might find your mind juggling up with questions like where to start your healing and when? How do make things easier? How to regain your energy? How to see things brighter on these dark days? And many more. That’s why knowing what helps you in your healing process is necessary. Yes, the very first step is gathering courage and willingness towards your life.
Starting your acceptance of your feelings and from sharing your emotions, be patient through all the changes you are experiencing. Give yourself time to process your grief as there is no correct amount of time for mourning. You can also write about them and express your feelings freely in your diary. Believe me, writing things down will help you a lot. You can also prepare a diary and a collection of all their favourite books, songs, etc. These things help you remember the happier and precious moments you have shared and keep their memories alive.
If you don’t want to be around or you are tired of listening to sympathetic words from others, there are ample numbers of condolence messages on the death of the friend available on the internet. These messages or quotes help you understand your feelings and convey the words that you are unable to express.
In between all this ongoing chaos in your mind, don’t forget to take care of your health. Take your food on time, get your appropriate amount of sleep and go out for some fresh air. Do your regulars. You might feel every small task is heavy and tiring. Things won’t seem easy as earlier, at least you can try not to give up. Everyone is with you in this tough situation.
